Water your own grass!

Grass is not greener on the other side.
The grass is greener where you water it.
So I decided I'd water my own grass, dammit!

Don’t explain. Don’t complain.

Je n'ai pas tout compris, mais ce que j'ai compris, c'est génial!

[de la Serge A.]

Barfe

Cand in jurul tau, cineva zice ceva rau de altcineva, te ridici si pleci.
Nu spune nimic legat de subiect, uneori si o reflectie in apararea celui barfit poate fi reinterpretata. Se gasesc intotdeauna "binevoitori" sa iti puna vorbe in gura. Sa spuna ulterior ca tu ai fost cel care ai spus de rau. Deseori binevoitorul e chiar persoana care a lansat barfa.

[de la bunica citire]


Eu as adauga ca... sfatul nu trebuie luat ca litera de lege. Trebuie simtita atmosfera, poate sa nu fie intotdeauna asa. Dar mai adaug si ca inteleg perfect de ce bunica zicea asta.
Bine, de fapt eu prefer companiile unde situatiile astea nu apar deloc, niciodata :-)

Lean in

Communication works best when we combine appropriateness with authenticity, finding that sweet spot where opinions are not brutally honest but delicately honest. Speaking truthfully without hurting feelings comes naturally to some and is an acquired skill for others. I definitely needed help in this area. Fortunately, I found it.

Talking can transform minds, which can transform behaviors, which can transform institutions.

We need to talk and listen and debate and refute and instruct and learn and evolve.

And last, but not least, the very best of them, again and again... :-)

Done is better than perfect.

[Lean in, Sheryl Sandberg]

Autoironie

Capacitatea mea de a transforma o veste buna intr-un atac de anxietate nu este egalata decat de capacitatea mea de a transforma un atac de anxietate intr-o eczema.

Ma faculté à transformer une bonne nouvelle en crise d’angoisse n’a d’égale que ma faculté à transformer une crise d’angoisse en éruption cutanée.

My ability to turn good news into anxiety is rivaled only by my ability to turn anxiety into chin acne.

[Tina Fey, Bossypants]

Bonus quote:

Whatever the problem, be part of the solution. Don’t just sit around raising questions and pointing out obstacles. :-)

I want to write a novel about silence... the things people don’t say.

[Virginia Woolf]

When I was young, I used to admire intelligent people; as I grow older, I admire kind people.

[Abraham Joshua Heschel]

Failure, it doesn't exist.

"It doesn't matter how far you might rise, at some point you are bound to stumble," she said. "Because if you're constantly doing what we do, raising the bar. If you're constantly pushing yourself higher, higher, the law of averages, not to mention The Myth of Icarus, predicts that you will at some point fall. And when you do," she warned, "I want you to know this, remember this: There is no such thing as failure. Failure is just life trying to move us into another direction."

[Oprah Winfrey, Harvard Graduation 2013 Speech]

Imbraca-te cum trebuie, Costica, ca atata ti-a mai ramas!

Atunci cand esti tanar ai de partea ta tinerete, frumusete, sanatate.
La varsta a 3-a iti ramane eleganta, decenta (sa nu fii ridicol), sa fii ingrijit.

The passion. The work. Damn good. Me.

I think I am asking myself the same questions as always. As when I was a child. A teenager. A young adult in my mid 20s. I guess I am still there psychologically. A good thing, bad thing? No matter.The thoughts of a young girl finishing college resonate with me. As she puts is...

"It is starting to become dangerously clear to me that all of these incredible things happen to you when you do what you love. You can't just do what you love, you have to make sure that you're damn good at it. Make sure you so damn good at it and that you allow yourself to grow from it. And that takes a lot of work, dedication, and salt water."

I'm a headcase if I don't keep moving and my head hurts if I don't sit still.
It's an itch that I'll never stop scratching, it's a hole that I'll never quite fill.
[Electric President, Insomnia]

Daca nu poti sa-i convingi, ameteste-i!

Love & desire

[The secret to desire in a long-term relationship, Esther Perel @TED Talks]

• Mystery is not about traveling to new places but about looking with new eyes.

A quoi bon avoir une Ferrari et ne pas pouvoir la conduire?!

...mda.

SO in love - Sheryl Sandberg

[Sheryl Sandberg, Why we have too few women leaders @TED Talks]

Aaaaaand, fuck! I'm in love again! I was just saying that I think I have always had more crushes on women. Not so very often on men...
Fuck, did I just say that?! Yes, I am so, SO in love...
(Read here another article on her)


She says that (statistics say that):

Success and likeability are positively correlated for men and negatively correlated for women.

And this evidence, because now that you've heard it, it suddenly became so obvious... it's what makes me want so, so bad to prove the contrary. First to me, then... the rest will come.

And this is not all, but I'm not going to cite everything she says, though I could...

Fuck, fuck I said!!... I'm SO in love!...

Bref

Odata mi se parea o idee buna sa masor calitatea unei relatii in frecventa cu care ma face sa plang (frecventa calculata cu o granularitate oarecare, de la pe zi, pana la pe an si mai bine, de la caz la caz...).
Inca mi se pare o idee buna!


Ma intreb cata durere incape in sufletul unui om.
Sper sa fie o cantitate limitata, Doamne, cat de tare sper asta...


Ziceam odata cu regret ca "Lucurile pe care nu le spui, se pierd".
O mai spun o data, cu speranta...


Cand eram mica imi doream sa fiu baiat. Mi se parea mai cool. Pe urma mi-am acceptat existenta de fata.
Acum am luat-o de la capat, acum chiar incerc sa fiu. Baiat. Ca prea sunt invidioasa pe lipsa lor totala de sentimente si trairi... Inca mi se pare mai cool; sa fiu hot.

"The reason you haven't felt it is because it doesn't exist. What you call love was invented by guys like me, to sell nylons. You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one."
[Don Draper, Mad Men]
(asta doar ca sa ilustrez cum gandesc baietii, apropos de ce ziceam adineauri)


Ma intreb daca "cele rele" se spala vreodata.
Bref, sunt optimista.

Increderea

Cica suntem impartiti in doua tabere:
cei care nu au incredere in ei si cei care se prefac ca au.

Just saying... :-)

Dilema

"Să iubești două femei,
Să nu știi pe care-o vrei.
Una-i mamă la copii,
Alta-i pofta inimii"

Poftim dilema, formulata cat se poate de simplu si clar!
Cine-a zis ca astia, manelistii, este inculti?

Si deci... Rezolvarea?!?...

2012

Sanatoasa, voioasa si cu spor la munca!

Splendor in the Grass

Though nothing can bring back the hour
Of splendor in the grass, of glory in the flower
We will grieve not, but rather find
Strength in what remains behind.

[Ode, Intimations of Immortality from Reflections of Early Childhood, by William Wordsworth]




...suddenly the kissing isn't a kid's game anymore, suddenly it's wide-eyed, scary and dangerous.