Beautiful bastards

Beautiful bastards...ah, as putea scrie un roman pe tema asta!
De fapt, vad ca s-a si scris unul, aparent unul erotic. De ce nu ma mir :-)

Dar nu, romanul meu nu ar fi erotic. Al meu ar vorbi despre libertate, in spirit si fapte, despre curaj si nepasare de tip "je-m'en-foutisme", despre lipsa de limite, despre intensitate si viata, viata traita pe muchie de cutit, pe o plansa de ceva, surf, skate-board sau snow-board, fie si skiuri, intr-un salt etern, in acea clipa cand corpul ti-e in aer, cand ce te tinea nu te mai tine, iar mintea-ti e aici, acum.

As vorbi despre acei oameni care nu au limite, pentru ca nu si-au pus nici una.

Dar as vorbi si despre acei oameni care "se chinuie prea tare" si se vede :-) Acei care cred ca sunt mai cool decat sunt. Caci vorba 'ceea, pe lume exista 2 tipuri de oameni: cei care incearca sa fie diferiti si cei care sunt diferiti.

Si poate as mai vorbi si despre niste ochi albastri... :-)

Women and the "have it all" expression

I always thought that "positive discrimination" is a very big stupid idea. Giving advantages to some implies negatively discriminating the others. The solution to giving women equal chances, rights and duties with men lies elsewhere.

--
We have to stop accepting male behavior and male choices as the default and the ideal.

We have to properly focus on how we can help all people (man or female) have healthy, happy, productive lives, valuing the people they love as much as the success they seek.

[Why Women Still Can’t Have It All, The Atlantic]

Water your own grass!

Grass is not greener on the other side.
The grass is greener where you water it.
So I decided I'd water my own grass, dammit!

Don’t explain. Don’t complain.

Headspace

headspace
a new perspective just opened

on the other hand, I understand now that this is just a normal next step on a path I've been already pursuing for some time now.
this is all to get me where I want to be: here, now.

Comunicare

"I know you think you understand what you thought I said, but I am not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant."

Cu alte cuvinte, e greu.
Sunt fascinata de cat de maleabila este o limba, cata inspiratie poate veni de oriunde si cat de mult impact poate sa aiba o poveste bine spusa.

Si ca de obicei, masochista din mine este atrasa ca molia de foc catre tot ce nu pot, ce nu stiu, ce nu stapanesc. Acum e vorba de comunicare.

les bosseurs

j’aime énormément le suivre, dans la construction de sa carrière, et de ses ambitions. il bosse tellement. à vrai dire ça me touche. j’aime bien les bosseurs… bref!

iubirea de sine

din inima, la:

plamani; alb albastrui; tristete -> curaj
ficat; verde; manie -> bunatate, prietenie
pancreas, splina; galben; grija -> cinste, corectitudine
rinichi; frica, sperietura -> blandete
genitale; roz
creier emisfere; alb
creier mic; gri

prin coloana,
tot corpul.

[iubirea de sine, SB, Paris]

Lean in

Communication works best when we combine appropriateness with authenticity, finding that sweet spot where opinions are not brutally honest but delicately honest. Speaking truthfully without hurting feelings comes naturally to some and is an acquired skill for others. I definitely needed help in this area. Fortunately, I found it.

Talking can transform minds, which can transform behaviors, which can transform institutions.

We need to talk and listen and debate and refute and instruct and learn and evolve.

And last, but not least, the very best of them, again and again... :-)

Done is better than perfect.

[Lean in, Sheryl Sandberg]

10 Things You Should Know Before Starting A PhD

[originally from here]


From a senior PhD student to a starting PhD student, this is the graduate school advice nobody will tell you but that you need to succeed and get your PhD title.
We all join graduate school with rainbows and butterfly ideas in our minds. We will cure cancer, do research in interesting topics, learn a lot, oh! the scientific method, meet smart people.
That’s cute.
Guess what? Life as a PhD student is much different.
Here’s what I discovered during my PhD that was totally different from what I had imagined. This is my graduate school advice for new PhD students.

Baietii astia

Sunt geloasa pe baietii astia. Again. And again.
Cum e frate, sa fii inalt, zvelt, blond si frumos, ca un surfer?... Fie ala si in noiembrie, in Paris, la 3 grade la soare. Cu un tata francez si cu o mama australianca. Deci cu un super accent si in franceza si in engleza...
Unul care munceste pana la 11 seara la teza lui, se trezeste apoi la 6 dimineata si reincepe sa munceasca pe la 7. Si cica baga mare, ca vede ca e intr-o perioada in care merge...

Apoi pe la 10 cica se apuca "sa faca niste muzica". Cu Ableton Live. Si zice nonsalant ca poate sa petreaca ore intregi facand asta. Auzind un sunet care il inspira, apoi incercand sa il repete, refaca, prefaca... Ore intregi. El face muzica.
Nu, nu face produse finite, nu canta cu altii. Dar face muzica. Ore intregi. Crede ca asta se cheama pasiune. Zice.
El "face muzica".

Si eu?... wtf?!?!?!?!?!!!!!!!!
w.t.f.

Autoironie

Capacitatea mea de a transforma o veste buna intr-un atac de anxietate nu este egalata decat de capacitatea mea de a transforma un atac de anxietate intr-o eczema.

Ma faculté à transformer une bonne nouvelle en crise d’angoisse n’a d’égale que ma faculté à transformer une crise d’angoisse en éruption cutanée.

My ability to turn good news into anxiety is rivaled only by my ability to turn anxiety into chin acne.

[Tina Fey, Bossypants]

Bonus quote:

Whatever the problem, be part of the solution. Don’t just sit around raising questions and pointing out obstacles. :-)

Un cleu

Da-ti parul intr-o parte, sa ai asa, un cleu pe frunte...
In stilul lui Lauren Bacall poate?...

[de la bunica citire]

beautiful, lovely, precious, unique, pompous, evolve, thankful, efficacy, delightful, breathtaking, worthy, resplendent, present...

...because these are smart, calming words.

J'adore te regarder...

... parler, jouer du foot, dancer, chanter, raconter des blagues, rire.

[inspiration ici et ici]

Sunt aici, acum.

dintr-o alta viata

When I was young, I used to admire intelligent people; as I grow older, I admire kind people.

[Abraham Joshua Heschel]

Femeia inspiratie

Ok, momentul marturisirilor.

As vrea sa am o femeie langa mine. Una draga mie. Care sa fie o sursa de energie si inspiratie permanenta. Care sa fie acolo si sa imi aminteasca cine sunt. A storyteller with the right message.

Pentru ca, recunosc, am momente cand uit. Iar ca sa redevin eu, imi trebuie niste energie pe care nu o am la indemana intotdeauna. Si e greu cand nu esti cine esti cu adevarat si stii asta, dar nici energia ca sa fii nu o gasesti - if that makes any sense...

Deseori eu insami sunt cea pe care o caut, propria mea inspiratie - asta atunci cand gasesc energia necesara. Am realizat de mult timp cat de singura sunt si ca eu sunt singura mea certitudine, singurul meu punct fix - ce poveste trista. Dar uneori, macar uneori daca nu se poate in permanenta, as vrea sa pot bea o cafea cu aceasta femeie inspiratie...

The passion. The work. Damn good. Me.

I think I am asking myself the same questions as always. As when I was a child. A teenager. A young adult in my mid 20s. I guess I am still there psychologically. A good thing, bad thing? No matter.The thoughts of a young girl finishing college resonate with me. As she puts is...

"It is starting to become dangerously clear to me that all of these incredible things happen to you when you do what you love. You can't just do what you love, you have to make sure that you're damn good at it. Make sure you so damn good at it and that you allow yourself to grow from it. And that takes a lot of work, dedication, and salt water."

I'm a headcase if I don't keep moving and my head hurts if I don't sit still.
It's an itch that I'll never stop scratching, it's a hole that I'll never quite fill.
[Electric President, Insomnia]

Daca nu poti sa-i convingi, ameteste-i!